Is true love on this earth illusive?

If we were to be 100% honest with ourselves ,how would we define that question because it is daunting. From my own personal experience, defining the word true love is a omninous task. I continue to ask myself these questions. Is love submitting to what ever comes out of your husbands mouth, is it tenderness by condition? Is it love etched with his memories and entertwined with religion. I have come to the realization as cold as it may seem. You cannot love another if first you do not love yourself. To cherish someone is a phenomenal task, to love as Christ loves the Church, is an incredible heart revelation-reality world. That has no dimentions or conditions. Can we love to this degree one another? Yes this is possible, but in marriage you have to die to yourself. That does not mean you allow yourself to be a victim of abuse.
it means you choose Christ in every situation. WWJD is a great accronim. The heart is fragile
and easily wounded, and words have a way of destroying the very essence of what Jesus has delivered us of and pushing us back into the hole of destruction. Word manipulation is not a sign of love for each other, it is satans destructive tool to destroy sneekily the order the Lord intended for love and marriage.If you dont have a song of love for your husband or wife, repent and allow the Holyspirit to deal with your past, cast it off and take on Christ in order that you might be able to stand in the days ahead. If you cannot sing the song of love to your husband or wife your house has already opened the door to division. Shut it in Jesus name. Value each other, not for selfish gain but for the glory of the Lord. Let Jesus be the center of your household. We need Jesus to teach us to love each other, Repent if you have been gloating about your past conquests to your partner that is destructive. Repent least you reap what you have sown.